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The Wisdom of Havelock Ellis: Thought-Provoking Quotes from a Visionary Scholar

Havelock Ellis, born on February 2, 1859, was a pioneering British physician, psychologist, and social reformer. Renowned for his groundbreaking research on human sexuality and psychology, Ellis challenged the prevailing beliefs and taboos of his time. His extensive studies on topics such as homosexuality, transgenderism, and the psychology of sex paved the way for more open and informed discussions on these subjects. Ellis advocated for the recognition and understanding of diverse sexual orientations and identities, striving to destigmatize and humanize these aspects of human experience. Beyond his work in sexuality, Ellis also explored broader psychological and social issues, making significant contributions to the fields of psychology and sociology. Havelock Ellis’s courage to explore and discuss controversial topics continues to inspire critical thinking and progressive attitudes towards human sexuality and psychology.

Education, whatever else it should or should not be, must be an inoculation against the poisons of life and an adequate equipment in knowledge and skill for meeting the chances of life.

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Birth-control is effecting, and promising to effect, many functions in our social life.

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At the present day the crude theory of the sexual impulse held on one side, and the ignorant rejection of theory altogether on the other side, are beginning to be seen as both alike unjustified.

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Every man of genius sees the world at a different angle from his fellows, and there is his tragedy.

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There is a very intimate connection between hypnotic phenomena and religion.

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Failing to find in women exactly the same kind of sexual emotions, as they find in themselves, men have concluded that there are none there at all.

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When love is suppressed hate takes its place.

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There is nothing that war has ever achieved we could not better achieve without it.

Havelock Ellis

The sun, the moon and the stars would have disappeared long ago, had they happened to be within reach of predatory human hands.

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The sanitary and mechanical age we are now entering makes up for the mercy it grants to our sense of smell by the ferocity with which it assails our sense of hearing.

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The relation of the individual person to the species he belongs to is the most intimate of all relations.

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The place where optimism flourishes most is the lunatic asylum.

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The parents have not only to train their children: it is of at least equal importance that they should train themselves.

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The more rapidly a civilization progresses, the sooner it dies for another to rise in its place.

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The husband – by primitive instinct partly, certainly by ancient tradition – regards himself as the active partner in matters of love and his own pleasure as legitimately the prime motive for activity.

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In the early days of Christianity the exercise of chastity was frequently combined with a close and romantic intimacy of affection between the sexes which shocked austere moralists.

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For every fresh stage in our lives we need a fresh education, and there is no stage for which so little educational preparation is made as that which follows the reproductive period.

Havelock Ellis

The by-product is sometimes more valuable than the product.

Havelock Ellis

In philosophy, it is not the attainment of the goal that matters, it is the things that are met along the way.

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It is becoming clear that the old platitudes can no longer be maintained, and that if we wish to improve our morals we must first improve our knowledge.

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It is on our failures that we base a new and different and better success.

Havelock Ellis

No act can be quite so intimate as the sexual embrace.

Havelock Ellis

Of woman as a real human being, with sexual needs and sexual responsibilities, morality has often known nothing.

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Socialism also brings us up against the hard rock of eugenic fact which, if we neglect it, will dash our most beautiful social construction to fragments.

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Still, whether we like it or not, the task of speeding up the decrease of the human population becomes increasingly urgent.

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The average husband enjoys the total effect of his home but is usually unable to contribute any of the details of work and organisation that make it enjoyable.

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The art of dancing stands at the source of all the arts that express themselves first in the human person. The art of building, or architecture, is the beginning of all the arts that lie outside the person; and in the end they unite.

Havelock Ellis

Thinking in its lower grades, is comparable to paper money, and in its higher forms it is a kind of poetry.

Havelock Ellis

The prevalence of suicide, without doubt, is a test of height in civilization; it means that the population is winding up its nervous and intellectual system to the utmost point of tension and that sometimes it snaps.

Havelock Ellis

The family only represents one aspect, however important an aspect, of a human being’s functions and activities. A life is beautiful and ideal or the reverse, only when we have taken into our consideration the social as well as the family relationship.

Havelock Ellis

The greatest task before civilization at present is to make machines what they ought to be, the slaves, instead of the masters of men.

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The mathematician has reached the highest rung on the ladder of human thought.

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The omnipresent process of sex, as it is woven into the whole texture of our man’s or woman’s body, is the pattern of all the process of our life.

Havelock Ellis

The place where optimism most flourishes is the lunatic asylum.

Havelock Ellis

The byproduct is sometimes more valuable than the product.

Havelock Ellis

What we call progress is the exchange of one nuisance for another nuisance.

Havelock Ellis

The Promised Land always lies on the other side of a Wilderness.

Havelock Ellis

The romantic embrace can only be compared with music and with prayer.

Havelock Ellis

The sun, the moon and the stars would have disappeared long ago… had they happened to be within the reach of predatory human hands.

Havelock Ellis

There is nothing that war has ever achieved that we could not better achieve without it.

Havelock Ellis

To be a leader of men one must turn one’s back on men.

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What we call “morals” is simply blind obedience to words of command.

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The absence of flaw in beauty is itself a flaw.

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Every artist writes his own autobiography.

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There has never been any country at every moment so virtuous and so wise that it has not sometimes needed to be saved from itself.

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If men and women are to understand each other, to enter into each other’s nature with mutual sympathy, and to become capable of genuine comradeship, the foundation must be laid in youth.

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A man must not swallow more beliefs than he can digest.

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A sublime faith in human imbecility has seldom led those who cherish it astray.

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All civilization has from time to time become a thin crust over a volcano of revolution.

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All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.

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‘Charm’ – which means the power to effect work without employing brute force – is indispensable to women. Charm is a woman’s strength just as strength is a man’s charm.

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Dancing is the loftiest, the most moving, the most beautiful of the arts, because it is no mere translation or abstraction from life; it is life itself.

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I always seem to have a vague feeling that he is a Satan among musicians, a fallen angel in the darkness who is perpetually seeking to fight his way back to happiness.

Havelock Ellis

However well organized the foundations of life may be, life must always be full of risks.

Havelock Ellis

Sex lies at the root of life, and we can never learn to reverence life until we know how to understand sex.

Havelock Ellis

In philosophy, it is not the attainment of the goal that matters, it is the things that are met with by the way.

Havelock Ellis

It has always been difficult for Man to realize that his life is all an art. It has been more difficult to conceive it so than to act it so. For that is always how he has more or less acted it.

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It is only the great men who are truly obscene. If they had not dared to be obscene, they could never have dared to be great.

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Jealousy, that dragon which slays love under the pretence of keeping it alive.

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Man lives by imagination.

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Men who know themselves are no longer fools. They stand on the threshold of the door of Wisdom.

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One can know nothing of giving aught that is worthy to give unless one also knows how to take.

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Pain and death are part of life. To reject them is to reject life itself.

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Dreams are real as long as they last. Can we say more of life?

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